Modern Bride Jess Bantleman

We caught up with @jessbantleman to talk all things weddings, from her relaxed farmhouse summer celebration to how she plans to style her look on the big day. 

What does being a modern bride mean to you?  

Having a day that completely reflects who you are as a couple and as a person, not what the overwhelming wedding world says you should do. I love how playful brides are with style now, opting for things that make them feel good and like themselves. That’s what I ultimately want to be reflected in every element of the day. We want to do things because they feel special and exciting, not because we want them to look a certain way to everyone else.

Describe your dream wedding day in three words.  

Relaxed, intimate, happy.

What’s been the most exciting part of wedding planning so far?  

I think just picturing the day, with everyone we love in one place, eating and drinking at one giant summer dinner party. We’re getting married at my partners family farm (where these pictures were taken!) so there’s already a really nice familiarity there, and it’s somewhere that holds special memories. You can stress about the smaller details, but ultimately, looking forward to the huge celebration of love at the end of the planning process is what excites me. Oh, and finding my dress was pretty exciting…

Who or what inspires your bridal style the most?  

I’ve always loved the old Hollywood era, where style was simple, structured and timeless. I equally love the playfulness of the nineties, so I’ve been looking through lots of old vintage wedding magazines from these eras for inspo. I also want to have some of my family heritage reflected in my style and accessories on the day, so I’ll be wearing lots of my chunky gold jewellery and bangles, which reminds me of my grandmother. We’ll be having a town hall wedding before our celebration at the farm, so I’m excited for two different outfits to match both vibes.  

What’s your favourite piece from the collection, why?  

I love the Beau Bow Blazer, it’s so versatile and I’ll be wearing it way beyond wedding season.

Are there any wedding “rules” you’re choosing to rewrite?  

 We’ve tried to keep the guest list to people we love and would have round ours for dinner on any given day. We won’t be having a traditional ‘wedding breakfast’ either, and instead we’re going for family style sharing food, and a beautifully styled Italian grazing table alongside our cocktail hour, in place of starters. I’ll be doing a speech, and we’re both opting to write our own vows too.  

What’s one tradition you’re happily breaking?  

Being a same-sex couple, we’ve really felt free of the pressure to conform to our day looking a certain way. Our bridal party will be a mix of people we love, both guys and girls who will be there for both of us equally on the day. We’re thinking of doing our speeches outside at the drink’s reception, rather than at dinner, and I won’t be throwing my bouquet if I have one. We’re getting married at my partners home, in the garden with a non-traditional ceremony, so we can tailor it to exactly what we want.